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10 Reasons Why You’re Depressed Right Now & How to Break Through

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Here are only 10 reasons you might be depressed. It could be something else, but it’s likely at least a couple of these.

You spend way too much time on Facebook [comparing your life with other friends] – This phenomenon has been proven over, over, & over again.  Even before Facebook, comparing yourself with others you know has always been a bad idea. If you feel down, check Facebook less than once a day, or even less than once a week, then see how you feel. Could it hurt to know a little less about the daily thoughts and feelings of absolutely everyone you’ve ever known in your life that care to share? I’m guessing not.

You watch TV – There is a reason TV has rightfully been called the “Idiot Box”. You’re in a hypnotized state many of your waking hours when you watch TV any length of time. The longer you watch it, the dumber you get. That’s not just a theory – it’s science. Some know this intuitively, others, not so much. Give it a break for a week. Feel the difference.

You drink too much – Does drinking make you feel depressed? Oh course it does! Alcohol is a depressant. Yes, two glasses of wine a day is good for the heart, and helps you live longer, but drinking in excess will drag you down. This has been proven over and over again. This multi-millenia- old rule of life won’t magically change with you. Do your best to cut down, and you’ll feel better, I promise.

You have no goals – Make a simple goals list. if you need guidance at all, read this, this, & this. It’s not hard. If you don’t know how to create goals, just follow the formula outlined in the posts in-which I’ve linked and you’ll do fine. Don’t be hard on yourself if it doesn’t happen overnight. Keep at it. “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.” – Earl Nightingale. Nightingale knows.

You’re in debt – Make a plan. Read Dave Ramsey‘s many books, or at least one. Do what he says, and get out. Automate. On a monthly basis, use his snowball plan, and pay your family off first, the government second, and your credit cards and mortgage last.

You blame others for your life circumstances – Change your position from an external to an internal locus of control. Noone owes you anything; not your spouse, not your job, not the government, not even God. Forget blaming your parents, your spouse, your teachers, your siblings, God, your significant other, or your job. Take full responsibility for your failures and successes. Stop being a victim, or playing the victim card. Letting go of blame is one of the most freeing things you can ever do in your life. Forgiveness heals.

You don’t dream/you’re too practical – Maybe your head is up in the clouds, or maybe you’re completely down to earth. Let’s get something clear, If you don’t think BIG, you’ll never realize your dreams. The only difference between those that achieve, and those that don’t  is how he/she thinks. It’s not I.Q., birth order, race, circumstance, ethnicity, origin, sexual preference, or gender.

You let others’ opinions affect you too much  Would you jump off a cliff if  “everyone was doing it”. How about, become a millionaire if “everyone else was doing it”.  Align yourself with those that are “doing it” in a good way. You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.  Why not surround yourself with others that will bring you up to at least average in your pool? Provide value to those that have progressed further than you and watch your stock rise.

You think everything should be fair – Life is not fair, and that’s a good thing. That means you have more of a runway to make leverage work for you. If you work harder and smarter than other people, you get the benefit.  Leverage in time and resources is the difference between those that are wealthy, and those that aren’t. Figure out how to be more strategic, smarter, have better people skills, find a business niche.

You’re Hungry – Are you dieting?  Do you think not eating will accomplish this? Are you angry & depressed? You’re probably just hangry. This could be why you’re depressed right now. Go eat the Grand Slamwitch at Denny’s, and call me in the morning.

How to take a Caribbean Island Bike Tour for Two Dollars


It wasn’t until the third day we took a self-directed bicycle tour where, for two dollars an hour, we explored the main areas of the island town: the Square, downtown, and a serendipitous city-wide festival we revisited later that night. We did this all of this on dirt roads with minimal road signs.

The bicycle rental shop was close to my hotel and wasn’t really a shop at all. There was no store front, only a propped up three foot sign and seven or eight vintage looking bikes. The family business renting them out were hanging out in the shade of the underbelly of a house. I’m sure the very site of a 6′ 4” gringo with a shaved head on a small bicycle elicited a hardy Caribbean chuckle (think Red Stripe commercial) from even the most tourist-jaded islander. Then you’ll never guess what we saw.

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