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10 Reasons Why You’re Depressed Right Now & How to Break Through

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Here are only 10 reasons you might be depressed. It could be something else, but it’s likely at least a couple of these.

You spend way too much time on Facebook [comparing your life with other friends] – This phenomenon has been proven over, over, & over again.  Even before Facebook, comparing yourself with others you know has always been a bad idea. If you feel down, check Facebook less than once a day, or even less than once a week, then see how you feel. Could it hurt to know a little less about the daily thoughts and feelings of absolutely everyone you’ve ever known in your life that care to share? I’m guessing not.

You watch TV – There is a reason TV has rightfully been called the “Idiot Box”. You’re in a hypnotized state many of your waking hours when you watch TV any length of time. The longer you watch it, the dumber you get. That’s not just a theory – it’s science. Some know this intuitively, others, not so much. Give it a break for a week. Feel the difference.

You drink too much – Does drinking make you feel depressed? Oh course it does! Alcohol is a depressant. Yes, two glasses of wine a day is good for the heart, and helps you live longer, but drinking in excess will drag you down. This has been proven over and over again. This multi-millenia- old rule of life won’t magically change with you. Do your best to cut down, and you’ll feel better, I promise.

You have no goals – Make a simple goals list. if you need guidance at all, read this, this, & this. It’s not hard. If you don’t know how to create goals, just follow the formula outlined in the posts in-which I’ve linked and you’ll do fine. Don’t be hard on yourself if it doesn’t happen overnight. Keep at it. “Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.” – Earl Nightingale. Nightingale knows.

You’re in debt – Make a plan. Read Dave Ramsey‘s many books, or at least one. Do what he says, and get out. Automate. On a monthly basis, use his snowball plan, and pay your family off first, the government second, and your credit cards and mortgage last.

You blame others for your life circumstances – Change your position from an external to an internal locus of control. Noone owes you anything; not your spouse, not your job, not the government, not even God. Forget blaming your parents, your spouse, your teachers, your siblings, God, your significant other, or your job. Take full responsibility for your failures and successes. Stop being a victim, or playing the victim card. Letting go of blame is one of the most freeing things you can ever do in your life. Forgiveness heals.

You don’t dream/you’re too practical – Maybe your head is up in the clouds, or maybe you’re completely down to earth. Let’s get something clear, If you don’t think BIG, you’ll never realize your dreams. The only difference between those that achieve, and those that don’t  is how he/she thinks. It’s not I.Q., birth order, race, circumstance, ethnicity, origin, sexual preference, or gender.

You let others’ opinions affect you too much  Would you jump off a cliff if  “everyone was doing it”. How about, become a millionaire if “everyone else was doing it”.  Align yourself with those that are “doing it” in a good way. You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.  Why not surround yourself with others that will bring you up to at least average in your pool? Provide value to those that have progressed further than you and watch your stock rise.

You think everything should be fair – Life is not fair, and that’s a good thing. That means you have more of a runway to make leverage work for you. If you work harder and smarter than other people, you get the benefit.  Leverage in time and resources is the difference between those that are wealthy, and those that aren’t. Figure out how to be more strategic, smarter, have better people skills, find a business niche.

You’re Hungry – Are you dieting?  Do you think not eating will accomplish this? Are you angry & depressed? You’re probably just hangry. This could be why you’re depressed right now. Go eat the Grand Slamwitch at Denny’s, and call me in the morning.

46 of My Current Goals

These 3-Year Goals were originally written on 3/2012. They have been modified slightly and added to since.

  • Save $20,000 in Get Out of Dodge  (G.O.O.D/E) fund
  • $0 student loan debt – Payoff estimate/date: $4670 – 10/16
  • $0 CC debt – Was paid off in full 12/31/14. Back to $4k ($1k toward edu)
  • Have $18,000 in insurance policy that can be used for indefinite car loans to self
  • Own $15,000 in physical silver and gold outside of the country
  • Leave the US for a year-long  travel adventure
  • 800+ credit score in order to get lowest or no interest on condo
  • Host event with a charity component with 1,000 people
  • Make $4k a month in passive income
  • Receive 250k visitors a month to website
  • 8,000 Facebook followers (Public Figure)
  • 5,000 visitors to a month
  • Make over $100,000 a year – April 29th 2013 started new job making 90k + 20k bonus, also
  • $9k from own marketing company (Search and Social Results).
  • Started new job on 8/14 at $90k plus bonuses
  • $0 car loan debt – Paid off 6/14.
  • 25,000 Twitter followers – Achieved 5/14
  • Open two foreign high interest-paying bank accounts
  • Obtain a second passport (residence) from another country
  • Automate college fund trust for nephews  at 5% interest a year
  • Automate 10% of income to charity holding account & give lump sum yearly
  • Have a 50% organic or juice-only diet until hit 188 lbs
  • Procure 500k in free travel miles
  • Drink and bath/shower in only non-fluorided water
  • Have an email list of over 35k
  • Have 10k subscribers to the podcast
  • Publish ebook on Amazon that can be read on Kindle
  • Create 100 videos and screen shares that bring value
  • Bring value to 10,000 entrepreneurs
  • Give scholarship to Nocona HS student of $4K for someone interested in Digital Marketing
  • Host holiday with my family at my own home
  • Fly family to tropical island for weekend with me for holiday
  • Find an excuse to interview Aaron for something – 11/15 – Medieval Times
  • Be a dynamic public speaker
  • Perform a concert for 100 people at once (originals and covers on guitar and uke)
  • Earn private plane pilot’s license
  • Cook four course meal for eight people
  • Build a cabin in Ringgold, Texas, for a weekend getaway and/or tenet bed & breakfast
  • Learn to ride a unicycle
  • Be in a TV show or film (create IMDB listing)
  • Live in Austin
  • Get engaged to someone I love
  • Have 10 hyper-local city sites up and running
  • Make $100k from Search and Social Results, my online marketing company
  • Be on my way to having a net worth of half a million dollars by 36
  • Obtain real estate license

The Six Pillars of Writing Goals That Get Accomplished


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“Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs”

― Henry Ford

As mentioned in part 1, as far as how to write goals that get accomplished, writing on your list “Be happier” or “Be healthier” is not going to cut it if you’re actually serious about tangible results. If you missed it, and need some context, you can read my own personal journey of how I figured out how to write goals that get accomplished.

The recommendations in this article are a combination of what I’ve learned from reading books on the subject, as well as what truly played out in my life over three years of directed focus using a particular tool.

According to the Holmes and Rahe stress scale, there is a list of 43 stressful life events that can contribute to illness, stress and anxiety are quantifiable.

That said, do you think there could be a quantifiable assessment of happiness, achievement, self-worth and well-being? I’d propose that there is, and with that a way to measure your own. To take this approach you have to be self-aware enough to know what brings you the most happiness, and then chunk those down into bite-sized, measurable pieces.

How to Not Rob Yourself of Accomplishing Your Goals By Using Self-Delusion 

You do not want to write goals that let yourself cop out – making them easy or vague enough to rationalize pseudo-accomplishment.

Some examples of happiness are feeling like one has: more freedom, autonomy, is loved, financial security, a sense of spiritual connectedness, is making an impact on others, and/or is in good health.  All of these can be broken down into sub-parts and/or a result, which is what you must do to make headway. Shoot for a result, not a cadence. “Work out three times a week” is not a result or milestone; it’s a cadence without an end goal.

You will become disillusioned or disappointed if you make cadence-style goals, because it’s very easy to “fall off the horse” early-on with the process. Doing this also becomes a non results-oriented  “how,” which is not what you want to focus on as a goal.

It’s much better to come up with a result as a goal, and then realize that you might or might not know what you will get to that result. It may be revealed to you over time, which is exactly how many of these goals will play out.

Furthermore, only make goals that are active, not reactive. Focus on what you want, not what you don’t want. For example, instead of writing down “Don’t drink too much coffee at work,” rephrase it to “Drink no more than one cup of coffee at work per day.”

This active phraseology puts your mind in the driver’s seat, with less “white knuckling” that makes you feel like you’re punishing or denying yourself.

By making your goals in the positive proactive position (not a judgement of good or bad, but a description of language), and factoring in that you may fall off the horse, you’ll avoid the “What the Hell Effect” ( a real phenomenon).

For example, if you wrote, “Don’t eat ice cream and sweets after 6pm,” for those times when you are craving, you’ll have “just a little bite”, and then go way overboard. You do this because you told yourself might as well, “If I’ve gone this far…” This is a real and proven psychological phenomenon. Avoid cadence and avoid the word “don’t.”

Take full responsibility for your goals by getting a firm grip on your internal locus of control. Make your goals dependent on you, not others’ actions toward you. Even if you’re not sure how you will reach them, your only work is identifying them and having a burning desire to achieve them.

Make Accomplishing Your Goals Inevitable

Find ways to make those goals happen inevitability. For example, if your goal is to eliminate a certain amount of credit card debt by such-and-such date, then your next step would be to automate extra payments where it’s completely paid off by your goal date. Automate that exact payment and forget about it. However, celebrate milestones. Make a Facebook post that says “Only $1000 left to go on my personal credit card debt.” All the congrats comments you receive will give you a small dopamine burst, and keep you going.

Focus on the feeling you’ll have when it’s all paid. Plan what you will do with that extra cashflow every month. Set up an auto-payment with your bank, write down and memorize your projected day of freedom. Then stop worrying about it, and move on to the next one. At the end of the day “getting out of debt” is not what most people want. They want the feeling of freedom and flexibility that not having debt affords him/her.

Another key, even if you haven’t achieved the goal yet, but it’s one that you have automated, add check marks to the goals on your whiteboard. If you missed the technique explanation on the 50 Goals Whiteboard Challenge and the psychology of why it works in this series of articles, go here.

If it’s a reasonable expectation that you’ll be reaching certain goals by automation, without unforeseen circumstances, check only those few off.  Leave them on the board list. This frees up psychological space in your mind to accomplish your other goals in less time.

How to Avoid Common Psychological Pitfalls

This is another huge key, don’t feel guilty, angry, or like a failure at the perceived passing of “too much time” between achieving these goals. Become detached from “the how” of the ones that don’t seem possible, once they are written.

If some seem insurmountable, you’re going to be frustrated, just realize it’s going to happen and deal with it psychologically now. It’s OK to erase certain goals or changes quantifiable numbers on goals judiciously. Just don’t do something silly, like wiping your board clean!

What if others see my goals displayed? So what. That’s great. This creates accountability, and causes your subconscious to try even harder to present your conscious mind with creative solutions. If you are embarrassed and not open about your goals, how are others going to help or feel compelled to introduce you to others that can help you achieve those goals?

The more people that know your “Think Big” goals, the more people you’ll find that want to help you (even those you don’t know yet).

Think BIG, Think VERY BIG

Simply by making “Think Big” declarations, there will be people, things, and opportunities that 
come into your life that you cannot even possibly predict . This type of goal setting is a seemingly contradictory; take full responsibility and control, while not knowing how it’s going to happen.

All great thinkers, inventors, business people, and scientists have done this one thing either consciously or unconsciously in his/her careers or personal lives that have led them to create history-changing accomplishments and innovations – had the confidence that it’s going to happen.

Do not underestimate the power of believing you’re creating your reality, without knowing “the how” of it happening. For more information on thinking big, read The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz. It will change the way you think and the limiting beliefs you may have. I’ve read it several times over the years. Although it was originally written in 1959, it has been updated and the information and advice is timeless.

Don’t Worry About “the How”

To reiterate, not all of your goals will be accomplished in a neat and orderly way on a perfectly timed schedule of milestones, all according to your prioritized chronological list. Some will take on a roller coaster effect where you may be nowhere near reaching it, when something comes out of the woodwork that propels you to surpass that goal. It’s truly magical.

Become Detached From the Outcome

Lastly, meditate and visualize yourself achieving these goals. Feel the feeling of yourself achieving each goal you’ve written down one-by-one. Lastly, let go. Don’t stress. Become relaxed and detached from the outcomes. Counter-intuitively, an indirect path can often become the most efficient path.

You don’t want this board to be a cause of pain in your life. Look at it as a fun exercise that could very-well make your life look much different three years from now. Don’t make these goals do or die; they are supposed to make your life better.

Summary: How to Write Goals that Get Accomplished

1. Be specific (not vague), and quantifiable
2. Focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want
3. Set up circumstances so certain goals become inevitable
4. Think BIG, Very Big
5. Let the “How” reveal itself
6. Detach yourself from the outcome

That’s how to write goals that get accomplished.

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– Neil



How to Write Goals that Get Accomplished


In the last post, titled A Simple But Powerful Goal Setting Tool that Rescued Me From a Personal Growth Rut, I explained one method, called the 50 Goals Whiteboard Challenge, that I used to meet and exceed many of my three-year goals.

When researching goal setting, I came across this piece of research experiment on New Year’s resolutions.

A comprehensive study commissioned by Australian comparison website in 2014 of more than 2,000 people found that 42% of participants set themselves a New Years’ Resolution however, most failed at their goals.

In fact, the study showed that almost two in three people (62%) didn’t succeed with their resolutions. Interestingly, out of those who did achieve their resolutions three in four participants (76%) believed that sharing their goals, for example on a social networking sites, helped reach them.

The most common reason for participants failing their New Years’ Resolutions was setting themselves unrealistic goals (35%), while 33% didn’t keep track of their progress and a further 23% forgot about it. About one in 10 respondents claimed they made too many resolutions.

A 2007 study by Richard Wiseman from the University of Bristol involving 3,000 people showed that 88% of those who set New Year resolutions fail, despite the fact that 52% of the study’s participants were confident of success at the beginning.

Men achieved their goal 22% more often when they engaged in goal setting, (a system where small measurable goals are being set; such as, a pound a week, instead of saying “lose weight”), while women succeeded 10% more when they made their goals public and got support from their friends.

Now, do you see some of the problems with having a “New Year’s Resolution?” Every year people make New Year’s resolutions, and every year millions of people fail. Why? One reason is the foundation of how they are written. I want to get a little deeper into what I’ve discovered to be a better way to write goals.

As you can imagine, along with writing your goals in a specific way, your own internal psychological management is a big part of the goal making and achieving process. Here are some tools that will help.

1. Avoid the Big G
The big “G” are generalities. The first knee-jerk reaction you want to avoid is being extremely vague and general about your goals, by writing down objectives that are hard, or downright impossible, to measure (a.k.a. not quantifiable). Here are some examples of goals that are vague.

  • Be healthier
  • Be happier
  • More income
  • Make more friends
  • Date more
  • Spend more time with my spouse

2. Be Specific 
Avoid the “ier” and the word “more” when using modifiers for your goals. Use numbers or what I call merit milestones. What are merit milestones? These are non-quantifiable achievements that are recognized by yourself and others as reaching some sort of discerned effort and notable record of accomplishment. This is sort of it happened, or it didn’t. An example might be a college degree. It’s the college degree plan and academic board that decides how many credit hours it takes to get that degree. There is not much gray area. That’s merit milestones.

Here is a example of a goal gone wrong.

Goal: “Get good at tennis.”

If you use Malcolm Gladwell’s definition of mastery, 10,000 hours (often, ten years) is the definition of mastering a major skill. Just how “good” do you want to be at tennis? Good enough to win the US open, or just good enough to beat your best friend? If the latter, make the goal: “Beat ____ at tennis for ____ games in a row.”

What to Avoid During the Process

  1. Being all-or-nothing – erasing your list when you get frustrated or that one “special goal” isn’t being achieved fast enough. That’s why you have 50, to show progress to yourself for the ones that take less time!
  2. Making goals that are out of your control, depend on extreme odds, or based on one particular person’s acceptance (win the state lottery, marry Natalie Portman/Ryan Gosling).
  3. Using, or planning on using, this board for anything else other than its goal-setting purpose. Get a new board for other uses (like grocery lists) – they are less than $15 at Target.

Get my next post: The Six Goals of Writing Goals that Get Accomplished , where I’ll give you tools to help overcome some of the natural psychological hurdles to accomplishing goals by going here. Get more posts on
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– Neil

A Simple But Powerful Goal-Setting Tool that Rescued Me from a Personal Growth Rut

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“There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it.”
– Napoleon Hill

In early 2012 I was fed up. I seemed to be at a sticking point in my life. I was unhappy with the drudgery of my corporate job, sick and tired of consumer debt, depressed at my lack of savings, and inability, despite my best efforts, to save. I was angry at myself for my uncontrollable bad habits.

Lastly, at the time, I was dating, but I didn’t have the courage to seek out the specific types of romantic relationships that I knew would be more fulfilling. On that day, I was reminded of an “ah-ha moment” I learned from a college girlfriend, which led me to discover a simple, but powerful, tool that changed the way I tracked and kept up with my goals. I felt like I had snapped out of a multi-year cryogenic sleep, because over the next three years I started accomplishing a whole lot more, and much faster.

So, what did I accomplish using this method:

“Big for Me” Goals I Accomplished in Less Than 3 Years Using This One Simple Method

  • Went from $XX,XXX to nearly $XXX,XXX (+17%) in yearly income.
  • Accepted three increasingly more interesting and better titled career-propelling positions.
  • Increased side consulting business from zero to +$10k in less than a year.
  • Organized and promoted a charity-focused arts event with 125+ in attendance.
  • Paid off $10,000 in credit card debt, owing nothing for the first time in 10 years.
  • Paid off a $13,000 car loan and didn’t apply for another (I will pay cash for my next car).
  • Invited to attend dozens of local food festivals, VIP events, and new restaurant openings.
  • Reached over 100,000 visitors in a 30 day period with my city-based arts/culture blog.
  • Increased year-over-year traffic by 78% for the city-based arts/culture blog.
  • Attracted over 36,000 Twitter followers and other growth for the same publication.
  • Hung with legends like Richard Branson, Francis Ford Coppola & cast(s) of DALLAS.
  • Co-Hosted an Internet podcast that received 14,000 downloads from 14 or so shows.
  • Took over and grew a marketing mastermind group from 100 to 1,000 members.
  • Became more prolific, purposeful, and decisive in dating potential marriage partners.
  • Gained a more purposeful life through discoveries of truth I could have never predicted.
  • Became closer to my family, plus dozens of other goals that are still in progress.

I don’t tell you these things to brag. There are literally millions of others that have achieved much more in less time using the same process, especially among my peer circle in the area in-which I currently live (Dallas, Texas). These are what I consider “Big for Me,’ and outside of my regular achievement programming.

How did I achieve these goals? The magic was in the method, and using it improved my speed and velocity of achieving some of my personal goals. These were big for me, not everyone. Also, they were on my list. They didn’t just happen by default. The secret is to let the subconscious mind work while you live your life deliberately. I’ll explain more as we go.

Life Wasn’t Automatically Easier 

Since achieving many of the goals I had my heart set on for three years, my life did not automatically become easy. I have had an extremely hard year-and-half, rocked hard with some expensive life lessons not just financially, but psychologically.

I will share those anecdotes at a different time. Despite having a tough time personally. professionally I’ve done well. More importantly, my spiritual life has become much more rich; my faith has increased greatly.

Sharing is Caring

As I mentioned in my stated mission with this site, I’m at a point now where I want to absorb less and share more of what I’ve learned in personal development, not to “speak down from the mountain,” but in order to contribute to others’ growth while continuing to work on my own.

One of my gifts is my story. May it inspire, teach, and/or entertain others – even if the inspiration comes from one saying “If he can do such and such, then I can” or “I don’t want to be like that guy, so I’ll keep reading to learn from his mistakes.”

This unpacking of stories and the lessons I’ve learned from a personal development perspective is going to take a certain degree of transparency, which I welcome.

Back to the subject at hand, goal setting. Before I tell you the method, let me first explain that I had considered myself a goal-oriented person before that moment three years ago.

For years, I had created long lists of goals. They were usually created out of a position of dissatisfaction, which is not the best place to create and architect a life of one’s dreams.

Setting Goals Verses Creating a New Year’s Resolution

I was never a “New Year’s resolution” setter, because I always thought a resolution was the opposite way one should approach a goal. I felt I should focus on the result, not focusing on what I didn’t want to do, or need to fix. My goal lists were generally long, specific, and time-based.

Even though I learned to focus on results and specifics years ago, what I realized in March 2012 was, that my goals were disorganized and out of sight, and out of the everyday working ram (memory) of my mind computer.

These goals were typed out on different computers, dispersed among dozens of digital notepad text files in desktop folders and half a dozen yellow legal pads. Ideas were strung about here and there. Many of them, in actuality, were hit or miss.

Power in the Pen, Power in Simplicity

So between the years 2005 – 2012, I would end up finding text documents or legal pads of to do lists and realize, surprisingly, that I had accomplished some of the big things on my list that had seeped into my sub-conscious. I no longer wanted this just to be a surprise. On that day, I wanted to create a duplicatable process.

I also wanted to create a teachable process, similar to the goal-setting gurus from whom I had learned some of these techniques. One of my longer-term life goals is, as it is for many, quantifiable contribution and impact. My hope being that I can best impact by personal anecdote and contribute with useful takeaways.

Returning to my anecdote, during the last part of college, I had a girlfriend that would put her “To Do”list(s) on large white butcher paper. She would hang them all over her apartment from her bedroom to the kitchen.

She claimed she did this because she would forget crucial things due to her ADHD. Since that time, I had considered doing the same, only for less every day, more intermediate goals.

I was timid about trying this at first because others would see my deepest aspirations plastered on my apartment walls, but in March 2012, I decided that I no longer cared and it was worth doing. I didn’t use butcher paper; I used a whiteboard. It turned our better than I could have imagined, as evidenced above.

What do I call this method? It’s called the 50 Goals Whiteboard Challenge.

Of course this isn’t the only way, or necessarily, the best way to reach goals. It’s just one way, or one tool for achieving goals. It combines several applied principles I have learned over the last ten years from writers, thinkers, productivity geeks, and self development gurus, much wiser than me. Mindset does play a big role, and we’ll get deeper into that later. Right now we’re just starting with brass tacks.

If you’re an achievement-oriented person and you have your own system, the simplicity and honestly of this exercise can work for you just as well, and add to your overall mix.

How to Take the 50 Goals Whiteboard Challenge

  1. Write down 50 of your three-year goals on a whiteboard (don’t type them on a computer).
  2. Think BIG, think VERY big. Make all goals quantifiable, or merit-based milestones.
  3. Keep the whiteboard of goals where you, and others, can see them everyday, at home.
  4. Make small, but high-leverage, actions weekly that lead you to accomplishing those goals.
  5. Set up circumstances that will tackle multiple goals automatically and simultaneously. 
  6. For the ones that can’t be automated, don’t worry about them at this point in the process.

“Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use.” – Earl Nightingale

As you can see, what Mr. Nightingale is saying is that even though you put a three year timetable on it, don’t stress about how long that sounds, or if it takes longer.

Three years is short enough to be understood by the conscious mind (you can remember where you were three years ago if you take a pause), but long enough to let the sub-conscious mind work to synthesize solutions to reach your goals.

There you have it, one powerful and practical tool for achieving your intermediate goals, the 50 Goals Whiteboard Challenge. 

Need a more specific, step-by-step formula for writing your goals? Get my next post: How to Write Goals that Get Accomplished when it’s posted, via email, by subscribing here. 

In the next post, I will take a deep dive into what might be the “elusive obvious” when it comes to settings goals. By crafting them a specific way, they are more likely to get accomplished.

– Neil

A Quick Note of Gratitude from Your 30 Year-old Son

This is an email I wrote to my parents. To be successful in life, I recommend expressing gratitude on a regular basis to family, friends, significant others,  co-workers, teachers,  mentors, and the Universe.


Date: Sat, Oct 29, 2011 at 1:55 PM
Subject: A Quick Note of Gratitude from Your 30 Year-old Son

Hey Mom and Dad,

I was just reading the book Master Your Money by Ron Blue,
a book Dad gave to me, and I found a note that was being
used as a bookmark probably 15 years old. It was in Mom’s
handwriting and it had listed “Aaron’s car $x,xxx” and “Neil’s
car $x,xxx.” It also had some CC balances. This morning, I
felt overwhelmed with gratitude that you raised my siblings
and I with love and support as we were growing up and
continue to now.

I talk a lot about marketing, success, my theories, business
stuff, and my future goals. You guys probably get tired of it,
and it probably seems like the only stuff I think about. It’s not.

Being 30 and in a different place than you guys and my siblings
were and are in life at this point as far as their own families go,
I feel like this subject is one of those things I feel most comfortable
in relating since you may not be able to relate to my current life.

(Mom, I know we tend to have more to talk about, and you seem
happier, when I have a current girlfriend.)

I wanted to let you know despite all the business stuff, without a
doubt, I value relationships and family above all. Also, I wanted to let you
know I am a very happy, well-adjusted, and balanced person.

I have so much to be grateful for with my family, friends, and my
freedom. I’m wealthy in this regard.

My finances are a work-in-progress and a lifelong work. We don’t
always have our families for all of our lives, so I wanted to express my
gratitude to you TODAY.

I read a lot of bios of business people and rock stars. Guns N’ Roses
are coming to town and I looked up the lead singer’s bio on Wikipedia. I
read how sad Axl Rose’s upbringing was with abandonment and abuse,
and again felt gratitude that I had such an incredible childhood with
great parents and a brother and sister.

Although, I’m always pushing in my life for growth, new experiences,
doing and considering doing unconventional things like: couchsurfing, world
travel, living by choice as an unattached bachelor, hypnotherapy school,
studying spirituality, psychology, the occult, and the Illuminati, despite
all this stuff that may seem foreign and weird to you, you have raised
a well-adjusted, happy, sane, somewhat-normal person, that’s doing
great in life.

My actions and words may also seem like unrest to you, but I assure you
I’m fine. At the end of the day, I’m a truth and experience seeker. Having a
wife and family will not change that, and it’s not for lack of that that I am how
I am currently in my life. My gift to my children someday
and the world at large will be my story and what I can
teach them, so I plan on making it a good one and having a lot to teach.

One thing I’ve learned about my personality type (like I didn’t already know)
from standardized psychological tests is, I have a verbally quiet, yet
adventuresome-in-action spirit. I seek thrills and spontaneity and my ultimate core value is: freedom/independence. Followed by these.

Freedom – Able to move about without bounds or restraints, liberty.
Truth – A verified or indisputable fact, proposition, principle, or the like.
Kindness – Friendly, caring, liking.
Knowledge – Subject matter expert, education via experience or study.
Growth – Investing in lifelong learning, personal development, self-education.

I still have a child-like thought process that I can do anything and be anyone
I want. I am a dreamer (thanks Dad).

I’m extremely fortunate in many ways with all that has come my way with what
others have given. One thing I’ve realized is, some of the most successful people are
good not only as givers, but good receivers. That’s something which good, and even
Christian, people overlook and it can hurt them spiritually.

You have to accept and feel worthy of what others do for you, otherwise you
rob them of the feeling they get from giving and the energy force they are passing
along. Acceptance, even of substantial gifts, without guilt or feelings of obligation,
is fine as long as there is gratitude (override the unfounded feelings of guilt, obligation,
and the Law of Reciprocity).

As long as you’re always giving value to the world and aren’t worried about
getting back, you shouldn’t feel guilty when it comes back (it’s a Law of the Universe).

I’m fortunate to have the abilities you have passed on to me such as: being hospitable,
friendly, a connector, and having a strong character.

I know we fancy ourselves a creative family, but Mom your analytical genes have
helped me with logic and the business side of my life. I do more number crunching than
I ever thought I would do in my career, and I’ve learned to embrace it, because it stands
to represent something I’ve done that others value…results. Dad, your warmth and sincerity
in your writing style, which may have passed through genes and rearing (Nature & Nurture),
has been of huge help in my professional and personal life.

I always say in interviews, that I have both analytical and creative sides (which is
perfect for what I do), since my Father was a photographer and Mother did the books
(accounting) for him (among other things such as sales). My strongest suit in life is writing
with a purpose: teaching, motivating, and being persuasive in print and in person (sales).
Being good at all of these take both sides of the brain, analytical and creative.

Thank you for being there. I love you.

Neil Lemons

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Do you Believe in Hypnosis?

Hypnosis has been practiced since the late 1800s, although many of the most effective techniques were discovered in the 1970s. Lately, learning about hypnosis has been a fascinating subject to me. I’m not talking about cheesy stage shows where people bark like dogs or lip sync to pop songs for the audience’s enjoyment, but the kind that actually helps people achieve personal goals and break bad habits in which the conscience mind is standing in the way of — smoking cessation, weight loss, gaining confidence, phobia extinction, business success.

By doing some research I found the only accredited hypnotherapy college in the US. It may not be the only accredited one, but it’s the only .edu that has a verifiable curriculum and government-funded financial aid (like any other private or public university). They have been running the program for 40 years (1968).

I am considering their distance learning course, which is free. Some may say, “You get what you pay for,” but they have addressed why they use this freemium business model, and it will be worth it to at least get the basics without having to invest too much yet. Of course one can not learn to build a house by watching a video or reading about it, just as you can not learn to hypnotize solely by listening to online lectures.

If I do take the course, I would plan on finding a mentor here in Dallas, in which I would plan to trade services with while under his/her part time tutelage. By the time I get certified I will have already owned the domain for a few years and with a little marketing can have an automatic part time practice. Secondly after a couple years in practice, I could use some of my future expertise to diversify my info marketing exit plan.

I studied psychology in college for my first two years before changing majors. I am still fascinated by it. My love for the theories became overshadowed by thoughts of having to listen to people’s problems for hours on end. I have recently felt the need to want help more people and I feel like hypnosis may achieve faster results and more people can be served.